STANDARD COMPETENCIES:

 

 I.      Discuss four danger signs for a relationship.

 II.     Use the Speaker/Listener Technique in role-play situations.

 III.    Identify differences in expectations for relationships.

 IV.     Discuss how differences in expectations affect relationships.

 V.      Describe the differences among issues, events, and hidden issues.

 VI.     Discuss how issues, events, and hidden issues affect relationship communication.

 VII.    Apply the Problem Solving Model in role-play situations.

 TOPICAL OUTLINE:

 

 I.      Understanding Danger Signs in a Relationship

         A.      Escalation

         B.      Invalidation

         C.      Withdrawal and Avoidance

         D.      Negative Interpretations

 II.     Understanding the Speaker/Listener Technique

         A.      The Floor

         B.      Rules for the Speaker

         C.      Rules for the Listener

         D.      Destructive Communication Patterns

         E.      Nine Rules of Politeness

 III.    Understanding the Role of Expectations and Issues/Event Model

         A.      Self Expectation Assessment

         B.      Self Assessment workbook

         C.      New Model of Event

         D.      What is an Issue

         E.      Hidden Issues

 IV.     Understanding the Problem Solving Model

         A.      Agenda Setting

         B.      Brain Storming

         C.      Agreement and Compromise

         D.      Solution

 V.      Understanding Commitment

         A.      Personal Dedication

         B.      Constraint Commitment

         C.      Moral Commitment

         D.      Friendship and Fun

 VI.     Understanding How Core Belief Systems Influence Relationships

         A.      Primary Family Conflicts

         B.      Religious Influences

         C.      Cultural Influences

         D.      Gender Differences